My Mother…

… Divorced my Father when I was five…  She had her reasons, I wont share them here, and I dont fault her for them, not for a second.

… Searched for ten years for someone who would treat her and her kids as we deserved to be treated.  Some treated her like a princess while all but ignoring us.  Most of them did, in fact.

She dismissed them.  Even if it broke her for a little bit.  She put her needs aside for us.  And she continued to do so even as we turned in to mini adults.

Then she met him.

Someone with two children of his own.  Someone who respected her.  Someone who treated her like the Queen she is.  (Just in case you didn’t figure it out, my Mother is kind of beyond reproach as far as I’m concerned…)

We all loved him.  And more importantly, SHE loved him….  A few years later…

He did it.  He asked her to marry him.


And I was there for it.  With my camera.  Big shock right?  Well, to her it was a pretty big shock, as evidenced from the above photograph.  For the record, I took that in 1994.  Like… YEARS ago.  Several years ago.

I’ve loved him like a Father for as long as I’ve known him.  I’ve been so grateful to him for being in my Mom’s life.  For loving her as she deserved to be loved…

They lived together, but not married…  Not technically.  They had their reasons…  Those reasons are no more.



Me:  “Hey Mom, what’s up?”

Mom:  “I’ve been calling you for hours”  (Clearly pissed at me.)

Me:  “”I’m sorry… You know I’m working…” (Pissed that she’s pissed.)

Mom:  “So me and ***** went to the courthouse and got the marriage license.”

At this point my jaw drops and my heart starts taching along at 150 or so.  I can’t form a sentence, so I babble.  Like I do.  “Wait… huh… WHAT???”

Mom:  “Are you okay?  Are you sitting down?”

I nod, but she can’t see that over a cell phone connection… “Mom?  I’m here.  I’m okay…  You’re really going to do it?”

Mom:  “It’s about time, isn’t it?”

Me:  “Yes, it is.  I’m so happy for you!!!!”


The smile on my face is like nothing you can imagine.  They’re getting married…. After all this time.  18 years, in fact.  I’m so excited that I can hardly contain myself.


  • Timothy says:

    Very cool! Hope their weeding goes well. Wishing the best of luck for them

  • hammer says:

    Congrats to your mom!

  • JS says:

    Tell your mom I said “congrats”! JS

  • Bernice says:

    This gave me goosebumps! Go Epi’s mom! Congrats all around!

  • Walt Trachim says:

    Such an awesome thing – having been on the giving end the second time I know it is wonderful… Congratulations to both of them from both of us. And to you too, Epi – I get the impression that he is definitely one of the good guys.

  • michael says:

    I knew there was some connection between us! I met my wife twenty-three years ago, she had two kids, then four and seven. Their father was never in the picture, unless he wanted something…wait a minute, this is your story!

    Anyway, my wife, though she didn’t need to, made it perfectly clear if was all or nothing. I took it all, and never regretted a second.

    I met her in 1985. We got married in 2000. We raised the kids together.

    The book I wrote was dedicated to them. It’s the best thing I ever wrote.

    “A fortunate man has three great loves in his life. Mine all came at once. For Cheryl, Danielle and Brittany.”

    Congratulations to you, your mom and the lucky guy who asked her to marry him!

  • Congrats to them!

    Its not easy to find someone the second time around, but they held on…and now they get to spend forever together.

    I’m so very happy for all of you!

  • Greybeard says:

    But does she know this guy well enough to MARRY him?
    It’s only important should anything happen to either of them… then it’s REALLY important.
    Good for both of them. Good for you too, Epi.

  • medicthree says:

    Beautiful! Congrats to them, and you!

    If Epi approves he’s gotta be alright!

  • Sean says:

    Wicked kewl. It’s always nice to hear the fairy tale! Congrats to you and your Mom especially!

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